HOW TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF SABOTAGE AND STRESS IN YOUR COACHING OR CONSULTING BIZ

HOW TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF SABOTAGE AND STRESS IN YOUR COACHING OR CONSULTING BIZ

In every thought, feeling and action you experience on a daily basis, you are either moving towards or away from wellbeing. That means you are either in a Cycle of Success (moving towards wellbeing) or in a Cycle of Sabotage (moving away from wellbeing). Cycle of Success If you are on court, thinking, feeling and acting in a way that serves you, you are much more likely to reach your goals and create the results that you want in your business and with your clients. A sure sign that you’re in a Cycle of Success is that you’re feeling connected, inspired, optimistic and untouched by life’s circumstances. You are also getting the results you want, professionally. Cycle of Sabotage If you’re thinking, feeling and acting in a way that doesn’t serve you, then it’s likely your life and business will feel like it’s one step forwards, two steps back. You know you’re in a Cycle of Sabotage when you’re feeling stressed, frustrated, uncertain and busy. You are also likely to be struggling to attain and maintain clients. So, on the face of it, the Cycles’ of Sabotage and Success look exactly the same: Your beliefs inform your thoughts which influence your feelings which underpins your actions and leads to your results. For example, if you believe at a subconscious level that you are worthless, it’s likely that you will have thoughts that nobody is really interested in your style of coaching or consulting, which makes you feel like crap and maybe prevents you from acting on a great initiative to get in front of more prospects, which ultimately ensures that you won’t get any result. The lack of results reaffirms your belief about yourself and so, it’s a self-perpetuating...
KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AN EXPERT & A GURU; IT COULD SAVE YOU LOTS OF MONEY

KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AN EXPERT & A GURU; IT COULD SAVE YOU LOTS OF MONEY

You may be aware that earlier this year, I took a break from my coaching business. During that time, I had a lot of time to reflect and consider what it is that I really want to do with my life. Coaching? Events? Law? Something completely different? You may have also noticed that I’ve started to make noises about getting my coaching business back up and running in 2018. That decision was precipitated by considerable internal confrontation. To be honest, I have been completely confronted by the question of my expertise. What exactly am I an expert at? If someone in New Zealand needs a 4-5 year corporate/commercial lawyer, I can put my hand up and state with all certainty that I am an expert at that level. I have the schooling, I have the degree and I have the experience. However, the truth is that my expertise becomes a lot more murky when I put on my coaching hat. For a start, the industry is completely unregulated and there are a lot of training providers around the world who ‘look good’ on paper, yet what exactly are they delivering to their students in terms of genuine expertise? Secondly, expertise becomes a lot more tricky to define when you start heading down the track of ‘soft skills’. For example, one of my greatest strengths is my ability to plan and organise. So, I’m really good at those skills but does that make me an expert at planning and organising? I don’t have a planning or organising degree or certificate; so am I qualified to help my clients’ in those areas? As a side-bar,...
WHAT IF THERE IS ONLY *ONE* THING TO FOCUS ON TO FINALLY CREATE THE IMPACT AND SUCCESS YOU DESPERATELY WANT IN YOUR COACHING OR CONSULTING BIZ?

WHAT IF THERE IS ONLY *ONE* THING TO FOCUS ON TO FINALLY CREATE THE IMPACT AND SUCCESS YOU DESPERATELY WANT IN YOUR COACHING OR CONSULTING BIZ?

• Procrastination • Playing small • Avoiding resistance and discomfort • Steering clear of confrontation • Anxiety • Hating sales • Not saying what you really think • Failing to follow through on what you say you’ll do • Questioning whether you’re on the right track in your biz • Wondering when the true success is finally going to show up • Pretending to ‘have it all handled’ Do you experience any of these scenarios? All of them are just symptoms; symptoms that your inner critic is alive and kicking. It’s evidence that the immense pain of your past is now dictating your results in the future. Plain and simple; it’s all sabotage. Every human being on the planet has an inner critic. Your inner critic is the voice inside of your head that helps you avoid painful circumstances. It’s the voice that tells you to stop because a workout is getting hard. It’s the voice that tells you that cold calling a prospect can only lead to rejection. It’s the voice that tells you you’re not worth your fee increase because no-one would pay you that. The degree to which your inner critic rules your life is directly proportional to the level of success you enjoy. So, what would it be like for you to no longer be completely ruled your inner critic? I’m not talking about working around it or pushing it down so you don’t have to deal with it. I mean, really confronting it and committing to dialling it down a few notches in your head? Can you imagine what would be possible for you if you...
OH, AND BY THE WAY… ARE YOU HAVING ANY FUN IN YOUR COACHING OR CONSULTING BIZ?

OH, AND BY THE WAY… ARE YOU HAVING ANY FUN IN YOUR COACHING OR CONSULTING BIZ?

The idea of helping people, coaching or mentoring them to reach their goals and living the dream lifestyle of ‘the entrepreneur’; it all sounds SO fun, doesn’t it? Who doesn’t want to use all their greatest skills, gifts and life lessons to help other people transform their lives, their businesses, their relationships and/or their health? Then, reality sets into your life as a small business owner. It’s WAY harder than you think to attract the right clients, the people who can afford your services, who love what you do and the way you do it. Money can be tight. Hell, sometimes it doesn’t come in at all. You may have questioned the wisdom of giving up a corporate salary. You may be stuck in comparing yourself to other coaches or consultants who appear to be doing way better than you. You may be wondering if you’re actually cut out for entrepreneurship. Are you really as good as you originally thought? Oh, and by the way… are you having any fun in the thick of all those thoughts and feelings? I would like to make a public declaration: It is time to BRING BACK THE FUN to your life and your business! In 5 or 10 years time, when you finally have the clients, the financial freedom and the business you have been dreaming of… do you want to look back and see a wake of stress, burnout and unhealthy hustle? And when you get ‘there’; you know, that utopia where you are successful and financially free, how do you know for sure that it will be fun? That it...